Judging by the title of this post you can guess what I’m going to talk about.
I have always been the “outcast” or “different” well, I always felt like I’ve been. Growing up I have struggled in maintaining friendships due to my friends moving away or typical female drama. I struggled with myself wondering what was wrong with me and why didn’t people accept me for me. As I got older and came to college I hoped things would change and I would be accepted, but things never changed they actually got worse, and I attend an all female institution so you can imagine the amount of unwanted drama that would occur. I never understood why females would be so difficult to become friends with until I came to college! I started to observe the different “cliques” and how they all interacted with each other and I said to myself “I’m just as pretty and I’m way funnier, who doesn’t want to be my friend?”
As time went on I grew out of that phase and stopped worrying about what others thought of me and started to enjoy life for me, even if I didn’t have a huge group of friends surrounded because I don’t need billions of friends, I’m fine with just a handful. I’m now a senior in college and I see how much I have grown and matured since my freshman year. My mentality is different and my perspective on things have also changed. Even though I have a decent amount of friends and when they go out on dates with their significant others or whatever the case may be I don’t feel “left out” or “alone” to the point where I need someone to keep me company.
It took me a while to learn to be comfortable with being alone and not stressing over it. I call it my ME TIME. I get things done with I’m alone, I have time to clear my thoughts, and I’m more at peace with things when I’m alone. Being alone is not a bad thing if you are comfortable with it, but don’t get too comfortable to the point where you have excluded everyone from your life. There’s a difference between “me time” and being anti-social.
I had to embrace the woman I was becoming in order to accept the fact that I don’t have to be around everyone at all times! When you get time to yourself embrace it, because it’s rare that you’ll get the “alone time” you need with yourself on an everyday basis.
I surround myself around people who are supportive, have bright futures, and people that are honest. It’s best to find a group of friends that you can be yourself around and you don’t have to feel judged or out of place. Surround yourself around people who bring out the BEST in you and most importantly GENUINE. Genuine people make for the best of friends! I genuinely love ALL of my friends, even when they get on my nerves (LOL).
So the whole purpose of this post was to let someone out there know that being alone may not necessarily be a bad thing, because everyone deserves time to themselves. Also to be comfortable being alone and not needing the company of others to constantly keep you happy. Remember to be selfish with YOU, and during this time get to know yourself and fall in love with who you are. ❤